In Memory

Lenny Goldstein

Born November 08, 1946, and died June 15, 2012, Dr. Leonard S. Goldstein of Gaithersburg, MD. Beloved husband of Kathy Goldstein; father of Alexis, Leah and Joseph Goldstein; brother of Barbara Davis and Lisa Lachs. Lenny was a psychiatrist practicing in Northern VA. Read comments from family, friends and patients in this online guest book.



 
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02/03/17 09:04 AM #1    

Myles Schlank

It's February, 2011.

Lenny and I had just finished a long and enjoyable catch-up conversation (family, friendship, the future) over a restaurant dinner. We started to walk to our cars and Lenny says, "There's something I need to tell you. You won't believe it. It's important." I waited for him to begin.

"I'll tell you next time. We'll eat at my favorite restaurant. It'll be a business expense: you're an MSW and work for the government. We're covered. I'll tell you then."

Lenny's a self-professed foodie so I looked forward to the meal but my head's about to explode. "We have time, why not now?" "No, let's do this over a really fine dinner; it'll wait. Next month," he says with his signature chuckle/giggle/laugh/smile.

On the bumper-to-bumper drive home (there's nearly always commuter traffic in the DC area) I have time to turn this over, and over, and over.

Well, you probably know what happens.

We play phone tag. The extended version. We finally talk on September 3, 2011, but it's minutes before my retirement party and I'm feeling rushed. So we never have that meal, or even a real phone call.

I move to Texas. We exchange a few emails. Nine months pass.

Then, Lenny's sister Barbara tracks me down by phone and tells me Lenny died a couple of weeks ago. After sobbing on each other's virtual shoulders, I recount the dinner episode to her. She's perplexed, too.

But it's not over.

Two more weeks slip by and one night Lenny appears in my dreams. We talk. He's going to tell me the secret. It's an investment tip " ... and the stock you need to buy is ..." when I'm shocked out of my dream by the blare of a truck horn. Seriously.

So Lenny, if you're reading this, it's time for another visit.

But first, hear this Time to Know Your Friends, written and performed by Myles and Lenny, a Canadian duo from the 1970s. My son sent me the album. Miss you.


02/04/17 09:58 AM #2    

Margie Bauman (Galluzzi)

That is a great story Myles! I enjoyed the music as well!


02/05/17 05:00 PM #3    

Arthur Rubin

Myles,

Your story is so Lenny, he always seemed to have a ton of things going on, but you never really were sure you know what they all really were. Unfortunately, on the day Lenny presented to the Emergency Room, they called my practice to tell me he was there and let me know that he would be following up at our offices. I was away on vacation but my partner took the call and emailed me to let me know the ED had called about him. Our offices had not seen Lenny for at least a couple years. The next call I had was that he had died suddenly in the ED. I was stunned. It seemed so wrong and strange. I am still perplexed.

Something I just posted in Lenny's in memorium book.

I just found out about this memorial book but time does not matter here. Lenny and I had multiple connections. Starting in 10th grade we shared some ambitions for our life. We both attended pre-Med at Rutgers for a while and shared some course stuff and fraternity choice ideas. I moved to U of P second year but after our college graduations we re-united at Georgetown Med. What crazy times we had. While studying, we still got into the marches, music and all the sentiments of the late 60's and early 70's. We started our own newspaper, "the Subterranean Homesick News" which lasted several issues and we endlessly discussed medical school and politics. Lenny was always really a very philosophical guy with a great command of words and very creative. He was very smart and great fun. I really miss his humor, laugh and talking with him. 

After Med School we both started in Psychiatry residency at GT. He was totally engaged in the GT psychoanalytical thinking while I, having just returned from a more neuro-chemical training externship in California, was into the the early use of anti-depressant drugs for psychiaric treatment. GT was not a good fit for me and I left after year 1 to complete  a residency in internal medicine with a psychsomatic illness tilt. My bond to Lenny and psychiatry was a hugh part of my internal medicine practice and over the next 30 years Lenny and I shared many patients, many medical questions and medical business issues (one quite successful business venture), and talk about our kids, families, and future. Often this took place while jogging on the beautiful canal path in Maryland. Like us all, he had his demons but he always meant well. He had a kind, helping heart and was a great psychiatrist.
I felt terribly sad at his passing and still miss him a lot as he was then, and even more, as I know he would have been. I am actually still a little angry at him for dying, he would understand that well. He was a great guy.

 

02/05/17 07:14 PM #4    

Lynne Newhouse (Segal)

Beautiful memories from his life-long friends.  Thank you. 

 


02/05/17 11:12 PM #5    

Arlene Weich (Rosenberg)

Thanks Myles. How often we put on hold our friends andloved ones.

What a mistake!


02/06/17 11:56 AM #6    

Marilyn Mauer (Harris)

Your loving tributes shared some tender and dellightful insight into this man that I really didn't know.  Thank you. Marilyn


02/06/17 07:46 PM #7    

Barbara Goldstein (Lenny's Sister) (Davis)

Myles.....Although it saddens me, it's wonderful to read your memories.  I don't remember if I told you this, but Lenny did the same thing to me.  He needed to tell me something important but there were always obstacles.  I miss him.

Artie.....I'm also mad at him for dying.  Thanks for your thoughts.

 

 

 


02/07/17 12:48 PM #8    

Jay Kaplan

Gosh, so many moments about Lenny. Among my clearest memories are the touch football games we used to play in the street in front of his house. Hard to believe we biked everywhere in those days, from one end of Pleasant Valley Way to Verona Lake and everywhere in between. 


02/08/17 12:09 PM #9    

Steve Lipton

Jay's post reminded me that Lenny & I would ride our bicycles down to play tackle football with Harvey Sarch and the late Bill Herman across the street from Fairway Ave (?) on the Montclair Golf Club course. We always had a blast!


02/09/17 05:03 PM #10    

Marlene Cooper (Grad)

I remember Lenny being such a sweetie. He was always smiling 

I was very sad to here of his passing  so many nice tributes 

To him  may he Rest In Peace     Too many in our class 

To soon to leave us.  Be well my classmates  marlene 


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